Wednesday, April 3, 2013

The Christian Mama's Guide to Baby's First Year by Erin MacPherson Book Tour

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Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)

***Special thanks to Erin MacPherson for sending me a review copy.  Please note that all information in this post was supplied by FIRST Wild Card Tours.  I have not yet read the book.  By providing this peek into the book, I am in no way endorsing the material or stance of the author at this time.***


Erin MacPherson is a mom of three who never does anything halfway. When she discovered she was pregnant she decided to write about it—but then kept writing. A former staff writer and editor for Nickelodeon, Erin now entertains parents on her personal blog as well as through freelance magazine articles, devotionals and speaking. She wants to come beside her readers not only as a confidant and Christian sister, but also as a best girlfriend who understands what daily life is all about.

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The Christian Mama's Guide to Baby's First Year:  An entertaining, practical guide for first-time mamas and those who need a baby refresher course.

The new mom initiation ritual involves sleepless nights, an inexplicable obsession with baby booties, and more questions than answers. This take on everything baby offers new moms the Christian girlfriend advice she needs to feel confident in her new role, including:

  • getting into the motherhood groove
  • breastfeeding advice
  • suggestions for losing the baby weight—before your baby is no longer a baby
  • time management tips that may just help you find time to do laundry—before you run out of clean underwear
  • how you can manage to be a godly mother and a good wife on less than three hours of sleep a night

Easy-to-read and relatable, this been-there-done-that guide answers these questions and more with a dose of humor an a lot of grace so that new moms can become the moms that God intended them to be during their baby's first year.

Product Details:
List Price: $15.99

Paperback: 240 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0849964741
ISBN-13: 978-0849964749


Welcome to Club Mom

Congratulations.  You (yes, you) are an official, card-carrying member of the greatest club of all: Club Mom.  And talk about an initiation ritual.  You just survived months of morning sickness, forty (plus) pounds of weight gain, and seventeen hours of labor and delivery.  Or, if you adopted, you trekked through seventy billion pages of paperwork, months of ups and downs and nail-biting nerves.  But you did it—and you did it all for that teeny, tiny, eight-ish pound baby that you already love more than anything in the world.

I was inducted into the club two days after Christmas in 2005 when my son, Josiah, was born.  And what a day that was!  I was exhausted.  And groggy.  And in pain.  But I was overjoyed.  My son was literally the most amazing, gorgeous, beautiful baby that had ever been born.  (Yours is too, right?)  And from that moment on, I knew that Club Mom was exactly the place I wanted to be.

Isn't motherhood wonderful?  I certainly don't need to tell you how fabulous your new baby is—but just for fun, let's talk about your baby for a minute.  That downy-soft hair.  Big need-you eyes.  Chubby round cheeks.  Big ole potbelly.  Fat, delicious knees.  Tiny, stubby toes.  Amazing!  And adorable! And, best of all, knit together by the Creator of the Universe Himself with a very specific and wonderful purpose in mind.  No wonder you feel so awestruck every time you sneak into your baby's nursery for one last goodnight kiss.

Of course, just because you've been initiated into Club Mom doesn't mean you know what you're doing.  I learned the hard way (read: through countless messy diaper blow-outs) that motherhood has a huge learning curve.  And nobody becomes a pro-mom—you know, the kind who carries a fully stocked diaper bag and manages to nurse her baby to sleep while picking up groceries—without practice . . . and some good, solid, mama-to-mama advice.

That's why I'm here—to get you from the spit-up-covered, baggy-eyed mama that you are now—to the proud, camera-wielding, frosting-covered mama that you will be on your baby's first birthday.  And what a journey it will be—in the next year, you'll learn how to sleep while simultaneously spoon-feeding your baby tiny pieces of cheese and videoing your baby's adorable lip smacking, how to remove yellow stains from expensive, grandma-purchased, white baby clothes, and how to puree food using nothing but a spoon and your own ingenuity.

Yes, in the next year, you're going to learn a lot.  How to care for your baby.  How to be a godly mother.  And how to embrace the ups and downs of motherhood while maintaining some semblance of the hip person you really are.  As you can imagine, that's not an easy thing to do—especially when you're running on about three (interrupted) hours of sleep a night.

But, it is doable!  And you're going to do great!  So welcome to the club.

A note for my particularly scrupulous readers:  You may notice that all of the pronouns in this book are male.  This was a decision made by my editors and I in order to keep the copy simple and consistent.  It in no way means that that this book is more applicable to boys or that I intended the tips and advice in this book to be just for boys.  So, if you happen to have a daughter (like I do), please mentally substitute "her" for "him" and "she" for "he" as you read.  And then write a very serious letter to whoever invented the English language letting them know how much easier our lives would be if pronouns weren't gender specific.

Chapter 1

Getting Into the New Mama Groove

Surviving and Thriving as a New Mom

Being a new mom isn't as easy as it looks.  I remember going to the grocery store when my son was a few months old and standing in line behind a woman who had three kids.  She stood there, thumbing through a magazine with her baby sleeping peacefully in a sling while her two older (and perfectly behaved) children sat quietly in the cart and quizzed each other on phonics.  Phonics.  No joke!  And to top it all off, the woman was wearing real pants (not sweats) and I think I spotted a smidgeon of mascara on her eyes.  My jaw dropped in awe.  How did she do that?

Meanwhile I stood there wearing a ratty, spit-up-covered T-shirt, my hair in a greasy pony tail, bouncing up and down in line while singing "Jesus Loves Me" to try to make my son stop screaming so that I could at least make it through the check-out line and buy milk.  And I wondered how I was ever going to be able to do normal things—like go to the grocery store or (gasp!) have a social life—without enduring a total meltdown (both the baby's and mine).

Being a mom is hard.  Way back in the 1960s, two psychologists named Holmes and Rah decided to study the link between major life events and stress.  They did a bunch of research and interviewed a ton of people and came to the startling conclusion that major life changes—you know, like having a baby—are stressful.  Um, well, duh.

Of course having a new baby is stressful!  In a matter of minutes, you go from a fashionable, intelligent, and totally (okay, mostly) put-together woman to a blubbering, still-trying-to-lose-the-baby-weight mother who is exhausted, overwhelmed, and can't figure out how to use the nasal aspirator.  It's a huge life change—and most mamas (like me!) need some time to get the hang of it.

But you’ll get there.  Okay, so chances are you’ll probably never stand in line at the grocery store while your kid discusses the intricacies of phonics, but you’ll certainly get to the point where you can manage to put on real pants and buy milk without feeling like a bumbling fool.  I promise.

How to Get Into the New Mom Groove

1.  Give yourself a break.  Remember that seemingly perfect mom I told you about earlier in the chapter?  The one who managed to wear pants and mascara while wrangling three kids?  Well, fabulous as she is, you have to remember that she has three kids . . . which means she's had a lot of practice.  I'm willing to bet that there was a point in time when she also stood in the grocery store with a screaming baby in her arms while covered in spit-up from head to toe.

You're not going to have the mom thing down pat right away—or ever.  Case in point:  We flew from Texas to Oregon right around my son's first birthday.  With a full year's experience of being a mom under my belt, I had everything under control.  Or so I thought.  Right after we got on the plane, I realized that my son had a dirty diaper—and, of course, in the process of trying to change it on the cramped plane, I managed to completely soil his pants, his shirt ,and his sweater.  I reached for the diaper bag—only to realize that I had checked it.  I had nothing.  Well, nothing except for a naked baby on an airplane in December.

Every mom has a story like that—well, maybe not exactly like that, but I'm pretty sure every mom forgets to bring a change of clothes once or twice.  And when things happen that make us look inexperienced or clueless or just plain frazzled, we have to take it in stride.  Realize we're doing the best we can.  And confidently ask everyone around us if we can please borrow a diaper.

2. Give yourself a break from baby. You heard me.  If you’re going to stay sane, you need to pry yourself away from your little schnookums every once in awhile.  I’m not telling you to go away on a four-week African safari, but it certainly wouldn’t hurt you to sneak out of the room while your baby is sleeping and take a shower.  Or, if you’re feeling really brave, you could leave your baby with your mom and go out to the Tastee Freez with your husband.

The point is that as wonderful as your baby is, you need some time to be you.  And seeing as how you weren't always a brand-new mom with a brand-new baby attached to your hip, it's good for you to pry that baby off of your hip every once in awhile and go back to being your fabulous self—give or take ten to fifteen pounds.

When my son was a few weeks old, my husband suggested (okay, demanded) that I leave the baby with him and go to the mall with my sister.  I whined and moaned and worried that something would happen.  But I eventually left.  And we had a great time.  We were only gone an hour or two (I was breast-feeding) but I remember feeling so liberated walking around carrying just my purse.  I felt like a real person again!

3.  Pace yourself. When you have a new baby in tow, there is no way you can do all the things you used to do back in the day.  That’s fine.  It’s okay that the house only gets vacuumed when your mother-in-law comes or that an entire day’s worth of activities constitutes a run to Target to buy diapers.  Yes, you headed up the world committee on organic gardening while holding down a full-time job and a seventy-hour-per-week volunteer ministry in your pre-baby days, but you just aren't going to be able to do that now that you have kids.  And that's okay.

The good news is that you'll get back into your do-everything-and-volunteer-at-the-soup-kitchen-to-boot groove soon enough.  I remember feeling so incompetent when my son was a newborn.  I felt like nothing got accomplished at my house.  Ever.  But you know what?  My son didn't stay a newborn and I didn't stay a newborn mom forever.  Now I head the snack committee for my son's football league and organize the class picnic and write the newsletter for my MOPS group.  And some days, I kind of miss those nostalgic new mom days when my only daily responsibility was making sure my son got fed.

4. Let your friends help. It takes a whole village—or at least an entire extended family and a church group—to raise a child.  And yet so many young mamas try to do it alone.  I remember being nervous when my friends offered to set up a CareCalendar (www.carecalendar.org) to bring me meals after my baby was born.  I didn't want them to think I wasn't capable—and I certainly didn't want them to feel like they had to wait on me.  Of course they didn't feel that way at all.  They wanted to help—just like I do when my friends have babies.

Here's the way I look at it:  when you have a brand-new baby and are recovering from what was possibly a very traumatic labor, you need all the help you can get.  So accept whatever your friends and family offer you gratefully—and make a mental note to do the same when they need you.  And, the truth is, unless you're still asking your friends to make you dinner and clean your house when your baby is ten months old, no one will feel like they're waiting on you.  They love you.  They want to bless you.  And you'd do the same for them in a heartbeat.

5.  Try to maintain a sense of normalcy. Yes, your house is messy.  Yes, your clothes don’t fit.  Yes, you feel like a completely different person than you were before your baby was born.  But that doesn’t mean everything has to change.  Try to do one thing every day that the “old” you would’ve done—whether it’s obsessively de-cluttering the kitchen counter or simply putting on a coat of mascara.

When my son was a new baby, I made myself a little "get yourself together" schedule.  Okay, I didn't call it that, but everyday I "scheduled" one household task or errand or job to do so that I felt like I had responsibilities outside of slouching on the couch with my boob in my son's mouth while watching TLC.  Some of my jobs were easy—like reading the new issue of Parenting from cover to cover.  Others were a bit more difficult, like trying to figure out how to make the wipe-warmer actually keep wipes warm.

Time-out for Mom

For When You’re Just Getting Into the Swing of The New Mom Thing

 “He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” (Isaiah 40:1)

Father God, What a blessing my new baby is.  There is nothing you could've given me that is more wonderful, more beautiful and more telling of your love.  Thank you.  And Lord, while my life has totally changed, thank you for dealing gently with me and showering me with your grace when I need it most.  Lead me, Lord God, so that I can raise this precious baby in a way that guides him to Your kingdom.  Amen.

Ways You've Changed Since Becoming a Mom

The old you: Wore cute, belly-hugging tops and styled your hair every single day without fail.
The new you: Has been wearing the same pajamas now for a week.  (To your defense, they're really, really cute pajamas.)
The old you: Never missed an episode of Downton Abbey.
The new you: Never misses an episode of the Late, Late Show.  Ever.  (What else are you supposed to do when Lil’ Mr. Hungrypants is always wanting to eat at one am?)
The old you: Knew how to make a mean grilled cheese sandwich.
The new you: Has grilled cheese sandwiches for dinner.  Three times every week.
The old you: Skipped out on the super-long and boring HOA meeting because it was super-long and boring.
The new you: Wishes you could go to the super-long and boring HOA meeting (at least it'd get you out of the house) but can't because it’s during your baby’s nap time.
The old you: Never had time to lunch with your girlfriends.
The new you: Lets your baby nap in the infant seat while you have lunch with your girlfriends who you haven’t seen for weeks.
The old you: Felt guilty if you went to bed without doing the dinner dishes.
The new you: Spends the entire day watching your sweet baby sleep—and is completely okay with the fact that the same cereal bowl has been sitting in the sink for a week.

Christian Mama Style

True story:  When I told my friend that I was writing a Christian pregnancy guide, she said, "Every pregnant mom experiences the same morning sickness and the same weight gain.  So why would I need a special pregnancy guide just for Christian moms?  Seems like any old pregnancy guide would say the exact same things."

And she's right—sort of.  Yes, every mom, Christian or not, shares similar experiences as she learns to navigate being a parent.  Every mom feels that intense I-will-never-be-able-to-get-over-how-amazing-you-are feeling while simultaneously freaking out about the fact that they are entirely and utterly responsible for the tiny life in their arms.  Us mama bears are fiercely protective of our babies—both physically and emotionally—and we'll do anything and everything we can to make sure our babies are safe, healthy, and happy.  It's human nature.

But what makes Christian moms different is that Christian moms also care deeply about our family’s relationship with Jesus along the way.  We want to grow closer to Jesus in this journey of parenthood and we want our kids to grow up to love Him with all of their hearts, their souls, and their minds.  And in the meantime we also want to teach our kids character, help them to grow rock-solid faiths, sow in them a joyful hope in Jesus, and help them to realize that while they are flawed human beings, they serve a God who is perfect yet forgiving and loving yet powerful.  A tall order.  But, before you really start to freak out (I know the very thought of that makes my mind start to whir with thoughts of my own unworthiness), I want to remind you that it is God who can and will work in your kid's lives.  It is God who knit them together with a perfect plan in mind for their lives.  And it is God who will work to help that plan come into fruition.  Isn't that a relief?

Of course, we as parents aren't totally off the hook.  God calls us to love and nurture our children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.  And that starts from day one.  Yes, that's right.  You can start teaching your baby about Jesus from the day he or she is born.  Here are a few easy ways to do just that.

Pray.  It's probably a given that most Christian moms pray for their kids.  But, I also know what it's like to be in that crazy newborn phase where there's never enough time for basics like sleeping or showering.  And when I was in that phase, prayer time often got relegated to the back burner.  I want to encourage you to get in the habit of praying for your kids—and praying often.  One way I've found to be purposeful about prayer is to use Scripture to pray for your kids.  (The book Praying God's Word for Your Life by Kathi Lipp has some great ideas on how to do this.)  I've spent the last six months reading the book of Ephesians and then using the words in that scripture to pray for my three kids. It's been a powerful experience where God has revealed a lot to me about His plan for them.
Adjust your expectations.  One thing I had to learn as a new mom was that my time with Jesus was just different than before I had kids.  In my pre-kid days, I would often set aside extended periods of time every morning to pray and read my Bible.  If I needed more time with God, I could just set my alarm a little earlier.  But I think any mom will tell you that a baby is no match for an alarm clock and that it's almost a guarantee that if you set an alarm for six am, your baby will wake up at ten to six.  Because of this, I had to learn to take mini-prayer breaks throughout the day as well as find alternative times (like during my baby's nap) to read my Bible.
Sing songs.  I love the song "Change My Heart, Oh God," so when my daughter was tiny, I would sit in my rocker, snuggle her against me, and sing that song over and over.  For months and months, that's how she fell asleep.  And even now, more than four years later, she still sings that song, loudly and clearly, whenever she's down or upset.  It's become a comfort to her.
Set an example.  Get into the habit of spending thirty minutes each morning—at a time when your baby can see you and hear you—reading your Bible and praying.  Sure, a two-month-old isn't going to know what's going on, but as your baby grows and recognizes that Mommy spends time every day in the same spot, praying to God, he or she might be inspired to do the same.
Expose them to the Bible.  I get that busting out a King James Version with a six-month-old will probably only fly for fourteen seconds, but try giving your kids access to the Bible in age-appropriate chunks.  Point out a rainbow in the sky and talk about the story of Noah's ark.  Read short Bible stories from a children's Bible.  Talk about how God created everything we see in the world.  As your baby grows, these simple conversations will be woven in with experiences to become part of his spiritual legacy.

Being a Mom Rocks!

The truth is that being a mom is the best thing ever—regardless of how many diapers you’ve changed or how many times your baby woke you up last night.  Your baby is pretty much the most amazing thing that has happened to you.  And, aside from the fact that your life is a teensy bit nuttier than it's ever been before, your life is also so much sweeter.  Nothing beats baby smiles, melodic gurgles. and chubby baby knees.   Nothing.

Plus, when you have a new baby, you feel like you're a rock star.  Everywhere you go, people will point and ooh and ahh and try to get a glimpse underneath the baby blanket.  People will hold doors open for your baby stroller and give you advice on elevators.  People will strike up conversations with you, wistfully thinking about the days that their now-thirty-year-olds were that small.  And everyone—and I mean everyone—will marvel at how strong/smart/alert/quiet/sweet your baby is.

Even when things start to feel tough—like when your baby wakes you up seventeen times in the middle of the night and you've gone through an entire package of diapers in twenty-four hours—there's nothing that will ever damper the feeling you have for that baby in your arms.  Nothing.  In my new mom days, I was completely in awe of my son and the love I felt for him.

Experiencing that kind of love showed me a lot about the love God has for us.  Of course, we could never love like He does, but just the experience of being a mom and loving a child made me overwhelmingly grateful.  In John 3:1, the bible tell us to " For example, 1 John 3:1: “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!”  God loves me more than I could ever comprehend—yet holding my son for the first time, I got a glimpse of it.  What an amazing feeling.

Anyway, now that you have your mama groove, it's time to talk about the nitty-gritty of newborn parenting.  How do you change your baby's diaper without getting pee all over yourself?  How do you know when his cries are real or when he's just working out a secret plan to keep you awake all night long?  And how in the world do you get those crazy (but adorable) button-up jumpsuits buttoned when your baby is squirming and wiggling?  Let's find out.

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