Monday, March 25, 2013
Stop the Glorification of Busy
I saw this quote on Facebook the other day---the cementing of all kinds of thoughts that had been swirling around my mind in regard to the subject.
Are you staying busy?
Have you ever been greeted that way by someone in passing? I have and, for me, it's kind of awkward. What am I supposed to say? If I say no, they'll think I'm lazy and boring. If I say yes, I'll be exaggerating the truth.
I try really hard not to stay busy. In fact, my new year resolution for the last two years has been to avoid any outside activity that makes me feel overwhelmed, stressed, or too busy.
When I say outside activity, I mean anything that doesn't fall within my obvious, God-given role as a wife and mother. So, field trips, ministry teams, and play dates are subject to avoidance---laundry, conversations with husband, and meal prep are not.
We often feel obligated to be busy. We feel guilty if we can't account for our time. Schools give kids busy work because teachers will feel guilty if they just send the faster-working kid outside to play while the others finish up. Oh yeah, and it's against The Rules.
You've heard the phrase, "stop and smell the roses." Have you ever done it? This morning I took five minutes and sat on my porch with my eyes closed, listening to the birds and the river, and praying. I feel really refreshed. Now I've got four babies making noise in the background, and will have nine kids up wanting breakfast any minute now, (I hear footsteps on the stairs) but I am going to handle this day way better because I stopped to be filled first.
(Before you start imagining I live in some idyllic meadow and begin lamenting your lack of birds, a river, and a quiet porch, understand that mine is smack in the middle of the busy downtown. Loud, obnoxious people, stinky diesel trucks, and blowing garbage abound. But, like mom says, you make your own happiness.)
What is being gained from your busyness? Kids are up now so I gotta make this short. Basically there's one test to be sure you're busy for the right reasons. If it doesn't fall within your specific, God-given role and it's not going to bring eternal good, then it's eligible for the chopping block.
This post was published in The Christian Home Magazine, Issue #106.
Thank you to Judith from WholeHearted Home for featuring this post!
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